my dream in life is to have one of my posts taken out of context and quoted on homophobicaces
Anonymous asked: So, can you explain more about being asexual? If you don't mind getting to personal? Like how did you know? Have your parents ever asked about it?
Well it’s important to understand that asexual means “does not experience sexual attraction”. It has nothing to do with being celibate or hating sex or judging people for having sex.
When I was younger, maybe 12 or 13, I was confused because I didn’t really like guys in the way that other people did. I thought I was bisexual because I felt the same way about girls as I did about guys: some of them are attractive, if they’re cool I might like them, but I’m not really interested in sleeping with them. When I got a little older I started seeing the word “asexual”. I didn’t know much about it and what I got from my minimal research was that it meant you didn’t want to have sex and that there were probably only a handful of people like that. I started to realize that might be the word for me but I ignored it because I didn’t want to be some sort of freak.
Anyway, I continued on through high school never desiring sex and frankly being pretty squicked out by the idea. I was super confused about things and finally decided that I probably was asexual. I told one person and got the same thing everyone tends to get: you’re just a late bloomer, you’ll meet the right person, everyone wants sex eventually. I figured they must be right.
The one day on a whim I checked the asexual tag on tumblr. I was amazed. I went through pages and pages, shocked that there were people who felt the same way I did. I remember actually tearing up because I was so happy to find out that I wasn’t some freak doomed to die alone. From there I continued exploring asexuality resources and learned so many things. I was still hesitant to call myself asexual, because I didn’t want it to be a self-fulfilling prophecy, but it felt good to have that option. Eventually I learned that sexuality is fluid and it can evolve over time and so I felt comfortable with calling myself asexual. It still kind of sucks to be asexual, because most people don’t accept it as a valid orientation and I always feel the need to make excuses for myself. Also it is really sucky to be a teenager surrounded by horny teenagers who are like “sex? fuck yeah!” and be like “sex? lolwut? why?” but I’m trying to overcome my awkwardness and get to a point where I can be like “sex? yeah, whatever.” Shit’s complicated, yo.
My parents have never asked me about it and I don’t really know why they would. I still date people so it’s not like they have cause for suspicion. Anyway I hope you enjoyed this overly-long story time.
time to bring this back
I know the dinosaur porn in the asexual tag is just another sad trolling attempt and I should probably be mad but honestly I find it hilarious.
hey guys, I think I know how to deal with the tags tonight…
Guys. Seriously. Don’t feed the trolls. Haters gonna hate, doesn’t mean you have to look at it.
“OH MY GOD ASEXUALS ARE THE WORST PEOPLE IN THE WORLD THEY ARE APPROPRIATING HOLOCAUST SYMBOLS AGAHFGLDSAGF!!!”
“Well actually that’s just the symbol for AVEN, and it was meant to be based on the Kins—”
“HSDJGFHLKS,FDJG HOW DARE YOU”
“Yeah but it’s not like the majority of us even use—”
“FUCK ASEXUALS. Also you’re not queer.”
Please link me to wherever it is asexuals are saying they “have it worse” than gay people.
Because it’s really ridiculous to keep kvetching about something that as far as I know has never happened.
I actually giggle every time I think “asexuals are the Canadians of the sexual spectrum”.
